Posts Tagged ‘husband’

A young wife married only a few weeks shared with family and friends, “I am so grateful to have such a wonderful husband who makes me so happy. I love him so much.”

This declaration of love is exciting though expected from a newlywed. The young wife’s comment stood out for me because down the road a week, a month, a year or more, she could be mad as mad can be at her husband or hurt deeply by him. The husband could be just as wonderful as he was in the beginning, but some flaws may have poked up through the glow.

Divorce rates are up. Rates in pride likely are up as well. The wife could begin weighing her feelings and her husband’s imperfections against her commitment to him. What should she do? A little story on the web holds a gem of an answer.

A reporter asked an old couple, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” The woman replied, “We were born in a time when if something was broken, we would FIX it, not throw it away.”

Advice I follow goes like this. Couples need to choose wisely in the beginning then let their feelings of love guide them in their actions toward one another. They need to feel anew their gratitude for their wonderful (almost perfect but not quite) spouses who make them so happy (except when they feel unhappy or mad). Also, they need to speak their words of love to each other then pray together again with one heart.

Staying together in love surely beats the alternative.

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Picture of young woman on country road with back toward viewer as she walks away with saying: Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that doesn’t serve you, grow you or make you happy.
I first read this saying on this picture of a young woman on a country road walking away from the viewer. It says, “Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that doesn’t serve you, grow you or make you happy.”

My first thought was, “Yes, definitely.” I was brought to all the times I feel that walking away is good like when a bully is about to punch my nose if I cross the line. Some fights aren’t worth it, so respect yourself enough to walk away.

Then, I thought about perceptions. Depression can alter perceptions. So can drugs. When a person is experiencing a major depressive episode or on drugs causing perception deficits, true good influences could be left behind.

Nevertheless, I have questions about walking away from anything that does not serve you, grow you or make you happy. What if you determined your family no longer served you? What about your religion or your country? Your children? Your husband (wife)? Your job? What if you didn’t feel happy with any of those because they didn’t serve you?

Are you really what it is all about, you and no one else?

There are times not to think about what is serving you but who and what you are serving. You also we need to think about long-term goals and relationships. At a given moment, you may not feel “happy,” but ask yourself, “What will I feel if I walk away?” Will you be any better off?

After I thought about these things, I say, “Respect yourself enough to find ways to serve others. You will grow and find an inner happiness.”

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