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‘Two little love birds sitting in a tree k-i-s-s-i-n-g. First comes love. Then, comes marriage. Then, comes (so and so) with a baby carriage.”

While this childhood saying was aimed at making their amorous peers blush, it also outlined the purpose of traditional marriage — children. For thousands of years in all civilizations guided by numerous religions, marriage has been between men and women to welcome children into their families.

The framers of the Constitution knew this type of marriage, and so has the country for over 200 years. It has been proven that strong marriages and families are the fundamental building blocks for strong countries.

Oh, if it were that simple for everyone and the country.

First, Massachusetts approved same-sex marriages, and now California has done the same. The latest marriages were legal on June 17 at 5 p.m. local time. However, the California Supreme Court’s controversial 4-3 ruling didn’t lay to rest the question.

Instead, opponents are looking toward the California Marriage Protection Act winning in November. It’s not surprising the lawyers for Equality California supporting the ruling, are trying to de-certify the proposed state’s constitutional amendment that would outlaw same-sex marriages.

The truth is love and sex aren’t always accompanied by marriage, and heterosexual as well as same-sex couples often engage in sex without love or marriage. And, an uncounted number of children enter this world as a “mistake.” So, what drives same-sex couples to strive for marriage?

I caught up with Aicila Lewis, the executive director of Boulder Pride, by phone where we discussed many of the issues surrounding same-sex marriage. She said “equality and fairness are the goal,” and gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender people are currently denied legal recognition for their relationships.

She added that people in the group she represents can have three aspects of marriage without the elusive legal contract. They can still have the social contract, the emotional commitment and the spiritual contract. However, without the legal contract, they are at risk not being there legally for their partners.

Hearing Lewis tell of a situation where the same-sex partner had power of attorney for a dying spouse but the medical person in charge wouldn’t allow him to be in the room broke my heart. When children are involved, they are not protected by the state in cases of “divorce and separation” where they would be protected in a legal marriage, Lewis added.

One idea kicking around the Web that Lewis said could be a workable option is to have the government stop issuing marriage licenses altogether and issue only civil unions. That’s basically what California did anyway by calling applicants “party A” and “party B.” Then, churches would issue their own marriage licenses.

As nice as Lewis is and how much I feel for her plight without legal recognition of her “marriage” relationship, a marriage amendment to the U.S. Constitution that clarifies marriage as between a man and a woman would end all these state-by-state battles. But, let’s not stop there. We need to find ways to be sensitive to and supportive of those who do not fit in that mold. They need love and support and care.

Currently, there is no current plan in Colorado to work toward same-sex marriage, Lewis said. Then, she shared a quote she attributed to Martin Luther King, Jr.: “It may be true that the law cannot make a man love me, but it can stop him from lynching me, and I think that’s pretty important.”

No matter the definition of marriage, no one should be guilty of treating others badly. Instead, we should look for ways to help each other out.

Source: Published June 29, 2008 Daily Camera

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